16 Secret To A Long Happy Marriage.

Keeping the wholeness of a marriage is not as easy as turning the palms of hands, much of it goes through life. But it is not something that is difficult to do, as long as each couple is willing to do it together and complement each other's advantages and disadvantages. Here, some tips to a long happy marriage.
How to maintaining the marriage relationship

1. Mutual Respect.

This is the first point that should be done by all couples in the world without exception. Respect is one way we give the highest position after God and the parents in our hearts. Respecting the existence of a husband or wife who accompanies us will make our partner feel appreciated. No matter if you are older or younger than your spouse, the most important thing is that mutual respect between you and your partner must be created and maintained. Keeping your spouse's good name and esteem is one way of mutual respect.

2. Communication.

Discuss children's education or about how to keep the kitchen steaming is common for couples. But spending a lot of time chatting things fun and fun and laughing together is simple but feels very special. Communication is the most important thing that must always be maintained so that the marriage takes place well and durable.

Various studies have proven that good communication between couples is even more meaningful than the commitment, nature or personal husband and wife or conflict that occurs between them. It is true that marriage is not far from conflict but happy couples are not those who avoid conflict but are open to each other and want to communicate to resolve the conflict.

3. Sharing Grief and Joy together.

Husband and wife are partners in one life glued in a marriage rope, To nurture affection on each side, the husband needs a wife's love, and the wife also needs a husband's love. Husbands and wives should share their joys, share sorrow and joy together.

4. Solving Common Problems.

Conflicts within the home life as well as the problems facing a husband are also a matter of wife and vice versa. Happy couples are usually not indifferent to the problems experienced by their partner and also be concerned. Solving the problem together will also be very helpful and certainly make the couple becomes more and more tightly and can rely on each other.

5. Find new things from your partner.

Discover new things from your partner every day. It looks simple indeed but will give each other space to adjust. Both partners should both do so in order to make the couple happy. Tips, do not feel like knowing "ALL" things about the couple. Remember that you and your spouse are two different personalities.

6. Do not Underestimate Small Things.

Saying thank you or sorry and the word please also should not be forgotten even if someone has married you. Good couples do not underestimate the little things that are done or given by a partner because it can make couples feel appreciated and make relationships more enduring and happy.

7. Create Romanticism.

Create a romantic atmosphere. Anyone will agree that the attitude and romantic atmosphere created is a supporting factor to create a harmonious relationship. Who would not be happy if their partner is very talented to create a romantic atmosphere together? Indeed, not all talented people create a romantic atmosphere for their partner, even some couples actually fail to create romance.

Everyone has its own romantic sides. The difference, there is a prominent thing that is not visible. Romantic gifts remain in each individual. No need to bother preparing a romantic activity for your partner. Small things that can please your partner will feel romantic if you are sincere to do it. For example, wake your partner from sleep with a red rose or a warm cup of coffee, slip a letter containing a love message in the pocket of his work shirt, or whisper the phrase "I love you" in his ear as he goes to sleep.

8. Mutual Understanding.

Many divorce cases occur due to lack of understanding of each side. Husband or wife will find it difficult to accept deficiencies and excess couples if the mutual understanding does not grow in the liver. In fact, when deciding to marry each party is ready to accept all the shortcomings and excess couples in the journey across the life together.

If the sense of mutual understanding is not in the heart of the husband or wife, then it is certain that the house of quarrel will often occur and the household becomes far from a harmonious atmosphere. Instead, start accepting your partner in all the worst conditions though. If there is a deficiency in your partner, then cover the deficiency with the advantages you have.

Maintain happy relationship with your marriage partner

9. Trying to please your spouse.

In the life of the family, even in social life in general, if one tries to put forward and put others first from themselves, it means that he has planted the seeds of love and closeness to everyone around him.

Thus, each marriage partner is encouraged to always please his partner and to prioritize and prioritize it from himself, in order to reinforce the bond of love between the two. The reason, when the husband saw the wife dedicate themselves to please him, of course, he will do something that can make happy and happy wife's heart. It does so to reciprocate the good of his wife, or at least in recognition of the good.

10. Keeping the Word.

Words that come out of the tongue is like a sword that can hurt someone. Should be careful to talk to a partner because if he feels offended when the wounds from his words that can make him sick. Not only that, living a simple life without feeling jealous and comparing households lived with other people's households that may look luxurious will also make the marriage last longer.

11. Eating together.

Couples who always take time to eat together have a greater chance to stay together in a family. If you and your partner are both busy, at least take some time to have dinner together and while communicating or laughing together. In addition to eating together, occasional cooking activities together can also make the relationship more exciting.

12. Working together.

Although husbands and wives have their duties, there is no harm if they help each other's work. The husband can occasionally help the wife to do housework and so can the wife relieve the husband's work if he is able to do it. Do it as a teamwork as much as possible do things that can help couples to help their work.

13. Sports together.

A study published in Psychology Today says couples who often do sports activities together have a more lasting marriage relationship than those who do not. Certainly full of not only will make the couple healthier but more happy and intimate. Do not believe Try it!

14. Arrange holidays time.

The exhaustion of daily activities will make the burden of life feels heavier. A good marriage relationship should give the right time to invite couples and families to take vacation time together to enjoy togetherness and a vacation to a comfortable place.

Every weekend can be a routine schedule for references with your spouse and family. No need to be far or expensive, going to a city park or to a children's playground in a nearby area can be a place to pamper yourself with your family at a frugal cost.

We need to earn money to live but we also need to use the money to enjoy life. As long as not excessive and adjust the existing financial circumstances, couples vacation with couples is a very good thing to maintain the harmony of marital relationships.

15.Keep learning to be better.

Although we have done the best it is highly recommended that we continue to learn to improve from what we have managed to do.

Keeping a harmonious marriage relationship cannot be done at a time, it must be done continuously until the end of life. Continue learning because the running time will also affect every action. Children are getting bigger and matured, the challenges of the more complex and environmental economics and association continue to experience the development and change. Make ourselves the best we can do in order to maintain the integrity of marital relationships.

16. Admitting Physical Change.

One thing that is certain when maintaining the relationship between husband and wife is to understand the physical changes to each other. The older a wife may be more wrinkled skin or body will get fatter as well as husband. So do not think too much about the physical and appearance of the couple, how old he said that he still looks beautiful or handsome and you still love him.

Those are some tips that you can be applied to reach a long happy marriage. The point is, if you want to keep your marriage lasting, then keep communication and do things that make couples feel comfortable and appreciated.

Also read:  Understanding Communication Within The Family.



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