12 Tips for Parents on How To Help a Shy child Gain Confidence.

Shyness can affect most children. Shy children are natural. They are usually more self-sufficient, wise and able to empathize. Some are shy only in certain conditions, but some grow permanently. The problem is when it becomes an obstacle in their life, and they grow in less confidence. The children have become hard to interact and tend to be alone, hard to make friends and don't want to go to school. Then, how parents can help their shy child gain confidence?

How to build self-confidence in shy children
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Why Can Children Be Shy?

Most shy children already have this trait from birth. But there are also other causes that might make a child shy or suddenly turn into a shy figure.
  1. Descent. If you were a shy person in the past, there is a possibility that your child will inherit that trait.
  2. Family education. The child is like a white canvas that can be painted to be in such a way as the painter. If you are a shy parent, you might teach the same thing to him. For example, you are awkward while in the crowd, then invite your child to be alone. Over protective parent education may also be the cause.
  3. Not taught to socialize early on. If during the first few years of life he is always locked up at home, not taught to interact with others.
  4. Bullying. Shyness may appear suddenly in children who are victims of bullying or abuse.
  5. Always required to be the best. If you always press it to be the best, whether in school or tutoring, but unfortunately your child is unable to do it, he may be a shy person.

This what you must do.

  1. Encourage the child to tell the things that make them shy.
  2. Avoid calling them shy children because children will usually live to be what people label to them. Also, tell the closest people not to say the same thing.
  3. When a child starts to show their shyness, don't make fun of them. Neither to force them to do the things they fear. Try to understand their feelings.
  4. You can invite the child to play or interact with a younger friend or relative in some time. This way will be building children's social skills (starting a conversation and using eye contact) if he is embarrassed to try it with friends of his age.
  5. You can ask the child who is the closest friend to him or have a hobby in common. You can ask him to invite his friend to come and play at home.
  6. Convey words that encourage children to be confident to act, then you can start the conversation with the friends, and slowly invite the child to interact.
  7. Give the child award when they overcome with their embarrassment, even just said "hello" to the others. It will foster confidence in children.
  8. Tell the child, that you have experienced the same thing as he does. Also, tell him how you deal with your shame.
  9. You can teach a child the certain skill to make easier. Teach the child to answer the phone. It helps the child to communicate with people without having a look at them.
  10. Build up his courage when in a public place, such as giving the child money to pay for cinema tickets or paying some groceries to the cashier.
  11. Make yourself an example for the child. Show the child how you deal with a mistake, or maybe you can ask the child for help, and let the child explain what you have to do.
  12. If the child makes a mistake, remind him that he's been overcome it well, and not every time someone can always overcome the mistake.
Building self-confidence in children truly is not easy.. You just have to be patient and stay with him, helping to increase his confidence. Build a comfortable atmosphere in the family. Invite each family member to help the child interact in the family and at school.

Also, read  How To Remove Fear from Child Mind.

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