Effects of Working Mothers on Children.

It is not easy as working mothers to divide the time between the role of mother and a professional, although being a multitasking is the advantage of all mothers. Even most believe, that women tend to have this super ability than men. However, what are the effects of working mothers on children?

Many mothers feel guilty about having to leave children at home for their careers. Even so, the results of various studies indicate that working mothers turned out to provide many positive benefits for the growth and development of their children later.


Positive effects of Working Mothers on Children.

Being a good example.

Negative perceptions about working mothers were broken in a study conducted by researchers from Harvard Business School. Research involving more than 13 thousand women and 18 thousand men from 24 developed countries in the world shows that girls whose mothers work will grow up and have better careers and tend to hold higher positions where they work. 

Children who grow up with mothers of career women have higher salaries than children who are fully cared for by housewives. As for boys, working mothers make children more likely to contribute to housework and spend more time paying attention to family members.

Does not affect behavior problems. 

When a mother reduces her time at home to work in the office, not a few are worried if the child will lose the attention of her parents and turn into a naughty child. However, studies show that children's development is more influenced by the family's emotional health and the right way to educate children. The reason is, children who receive love and sufficient attention from their families will be separated from various problems, even if the mother has to work outside the home.

Making children more independently. 

It is undeniable that the demands of work make mothers have less time at home with their children. As a result, children become accustomed to doing everything themselves. Even so, this indirectly trains your child to be more independent. Especially if they are forced to migrate when they are adults, where they will live far from their parents. 

But you have to understand, even though children will be accustomed to doing various activities on their own without being accompanied by parents, you must continue to give intact attention and love while at home. 

It is done so that your role as a mother can be enjoyed by children and they do not lose a parent figure in his life. Simple things like preparing food and children's breakfast before leaving for work can be one form of your attention to children.

Children tend to be smarter.

Family income background will indirectly influence the pattern of parenting which stimulates constructive play and provides emotional support at home. Well, this is what makes the intelligence of children whose mothers work more often than children whose mothers do not work.

Making children more responsible.

Running two roles at the same time as a mother and career woman without complaints, actually, indirectly you have taught a sense of responsibility to children. When children understand enough about your busy life to work, direct your child to know the positive things about the activity. By giving a series of positive images, this will make you think that work is a fun activity, not a burden.

Hardworking child.

On early age, children are able to know the relationship between an effort, work, and income. It can be a learning for children that everything can be obtained through an effort and hard work. By providing an explanation of how hard-earned money at work can be used to buy various objects, children will be more careful about their requests, and more appreciate what they have.

Negative effects of Working Mothers on Children.

Children are lazy to learn.

The question of the influence of mothers working on their children's achievements is still debated. At the very least, from the research conducted by Crouter in the United States was stated that boys who generally have special relationships with their mothers are lazy to learn and do not show good achievements in school.

Children feel isolated.

Working mothers tend not to spend more time with their children. It will make children feel isolated from their mothers, and reduce the bond between children and mothers. Children can also fall into bad relationships because of the deficiency of parental supervision.

Reduced patience in educating children.

A career woman usually goes home in a state of exhaustion after a day of working outside the home, this will psychologically affect the level of patience she has, both in facing daily housework and in dealing with her children. If that happens, the mother will get irritable and less concerned about the child. Surveys conducted in several countries show that many small children are victims of parental violence which should not occur if they have sufficient patience in educating children.

Pampering children excessively.

Working mothers who feel guilty because they are more concerned with work make them more likely to spoil their children. This attitude can have a negative impact on children, both with the environment of their peers and children's achievements in school.

It should be borne in mind that the personality of the child begins to form from the age of 0-5 years. At that time the child will learn everything from the people around him. Therefore, if you leave your child with a caregiver while going to work, you should make sure that your child's caregiver has a good personality. Here are some criteria for a child's caregiver for children:
  1. Have a good character and a healthy personality.
  2. Have an interest in caring for and educating, even though those who are cared for and educated are children of others.
  3. Has a general education background that is quite adequate and has obtained special education to foster children in the family.
  4. Some of the knowledge caregiver comprehended include child health, children's education in the family, and developmental psychology which includes the process of child development and ethics in religious manners.
  5. Expert to communicate with children and their families, dare to express their opinions and be able to consult with parents about matters that are mutually agreed upon or joint solutions are sought. In other words, he was able to establish good relations with all his family members.

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