How Violence on Children Happen?

The problem of violence on children going to be a concern of many non-governmental organizations such as Save the Children. Save the Children 's Senior Advocacy and Policy Advisor, Roberta Cecchetti explained, that globally the amount of violence against children reaches 500 million to 1.5 billion.

Then as many as 85 million children in the world become workers in hazardous environments, as many as 1 billion children live in countries with the potential for armed violence such as terrorists, as many as 3 out of 4 children experience violence for disciplinary reasons at home, and 5-10% of boys men and 20% percent of girls have experienced sexual violence.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), a quarter of adults have encountered physical violence while they were children.  Violence on children is abuse and negligence in children and is not always clearly visible so it can be ignored.

Children who suffer from violence may not tell anyone or understand what is happening. Without the awareness and supervision of an adult, children may not get help. It is important for parents to understand violence on children, signs and how to support your child.

How to prevent physical violence in children.

Violence on children.

Children are vulnerable beings who need protection and affection from their parents. However not all children are fortunate to receive an abundance of affection, many children also have to live bitterly to become victims of the exploitation and violence of adult who should protect.

Violence on children is any action against children that violates behavioral norms and tends to cause damage to children both physically and psychologically. A case can be said of violence on children if the victim is a child under the age of 17 or 18 years. Children who are under this age must be protected from violence because at that age the child cannot protect himself completely from acts of violence.

Violence on children not just define to physical brutality. Although physical cruelty is further apparent. For example, neglecting the needs of children, leaving children in situations that are not monitored or dangerous, or making children feel worthless or stupid is also violence to children. Whatever the type of violence, the results can cause adverse effects on the psychological and social growth of the child. The following is an explanation of some types of violence on children:

Physical abuse.

Violence on children that often occurs is physical cruelty. Physical violence against children is an injury that is done by intentionally injuring the child. The effects of physical violence usually provide physical damage to children. 

Cases of physical violence that occur can be done by caregivers (parents, grandparents, babysitters, and others). Physical violence can also carry out by someone outside the immediate environment.

Some examples of forms of physical violence in children are hitting, striking, pinching, biting, burning, burning with cigarettes, and others. Physical violence also occurs in infants, usually occurring in the head and abdomen.

Babies and toddlers are the most vulnerable to becoming victims of this type of physical violence. It is because they have a rapid development stage and often make it difficult for caregivers.

Sexual harassment.

Sexual harassment is violence against children related to the area of genital and sexual activities such as touch, sexual relations, and pornography. Just like physical violence, sexual harassment can also be done by carers and non-carers who are male sex.

The usual cases of sexual abuse of children are highly related to pedophilia. Sexual harassment in children can occur in the form of showing the genitals of the offender, seeing the child's genitals especially to touch and penetrate.

Medical abuse.

Medical abuse is also violence against children. Almost similar to physical violence, child abuse is an act that intentionally makes a child sick. Violence on children of this type is indeed more dangerous than physical violence. It is because medical abuse can provide serious injury to children because it provides medical treatment that is not needed or manipulates to appear sick. Examples of medical abuse are the perpetrators giving unnecessary drugs or manipulating urine samples with added contaminants.

Neglect.

This child abuse rarely realizes by parents and caregivers. Neglect is also included in the type of violence against children. Abandonment of children can be seen in the failure to provide primary needs such as food, food, shelter, love, education, and proper health for children.


Signs of a child experiencing violence.

Violence in children can occur in any family or social class. It is difficult for children to tell them that they are being treated improperly, usually because the persecutor is someone they respect, such as a parent or teacher. There are several signs that can help you recognize if a child is experiencing violence, such as:
  1. Children isolate themselves from friends or daily activities
  2. Children are irritable, aggressive, or rude
  3. Children show poor performance at school
  4. Children show signs of depression or unusual fear, losing self-confidence
  5. Children may skip school often or skip social activities
  6. Children may show signs of rebellion or challenging behavior
  7. Children may try to commit suicide.

Signs of physical violence.

Physical violence can intentionally or unintentionally endanger children. It can occur from inappropriate penalties, such as pounding a belt on a child. Children who experience physical violence commonly have the following signs:
  1. injury of unknown origin, or for specific reasons
  2. medical or dental problems that have an unknown cause

Signs of sexual violence.

Sexual violence is a complicated issue because the victim feels ashamed. Cases of sexual violence are oftentimes not reported. It is necessary to know that sexual violence against children does not always include physical contact. Exposing children to adult material or sexual situations also includes sexual violence. Here are some signs that indicate sexual violence:
  1. Having improper sexual behavior
  2. Pregnant or having a sexually transmitted disease
  3. Having problems with genital, pain or difficulty walking or sitting
  4. There is blood in the underwear.

Signs of emotional violence.

Emotional violence can severely disrupt a child's mental health and social development, resulting in prolonged psychological injuries. Although emotional violence may not show physical symptoms, here are some signs that you can pay attention to:
  1. Loss of confidence
  2. Signs of depression or anxiety
  3. A headache or sudden abdominal pain
  4. Withdraw from social activities, friends, or parents
  5. Need excessive love
  6. Late or disturbed emotional development
  7. Often skipping school and decreasing achievement, losing enthusiasm for school
  8. Avoid certain situations
  9. Skill loss.

Signs of neglect.

Abandonment of children is difficult to detect. Ignoring children is the failure to provide protection to children. Parents may not be able to provide for children's needs due to disability, illnesses such as depression, or severe injury. Sometimes, adults with drug abuse have difficulty caring for children and in assessing situations that are safe for children. The following are signs of child neglect:
  1. Children feel indifferent
  2. Have poor hygiene
  3. Have high growth or poor weight
  4. Lack of clothing or equipment for other children's needs
  5. Poor performance at school
  6. Lack of medical care or emotional care
  7. Eat a lot or keep food secretly
  8. Emotional disorders, irritability or frustration
  9. Feelings of fear or anxiety
  10. Unreasonable weight loss
Sometimes, signs of child abuse can also be seen in parents or teachers, such as:
  1. Support physical discipline or Encourage others to do it
  2. Ignoring physical or mental discomfort of the child
  3. Provide unconvincing reasons for child injury
  4. Blaming the child for any mistakes, Scolding or belittling children, often calling with bad terms
  5. Ask the child to pay special attention and jealousy to other family members who get attention from the child
  6. Denying any problems at home or at school, blaming the child for problems
  7. physically or academically unreasonable
  8. Limiting children's relationships with others

How violence on children happen?

Many people do not care and there are still many people who consider committing violence against children is normal. There are still many parents who think that children are routed and manipulated as usual.

This happens because in some societies there is still a wrong paradigm. "Children are considered as a lower class community and parental rights. Many parents say, ‘This is my child! I educate in any way, that is my right, you have no right to interfere! '

The rights of the child are not prioritized, which must protect by their parents. Parents who commit violence against their children, criminal sanctions are added, because parents must be at the front guard to protect their children.

Another mistake that is often found in the minds of parents is to consider children as miniature adults. Children are considered to have the same strength as adults so that they will be strong to get hard treatment and impact.

It is precisely the violence that is received by the child, however small in any form, whether physical, mental, sexual, to neglect, which can cause injuries that endanger him physically and mentally. Children are very fragile, physically and mentally. Violence will form a soul full of resistance and rebellion in the future.

Effects violence on children.

If not handled properly, side effects of violence on children can continue until the victim reaches adulthood. Children who are victims of violence not only have scars on their bodies but can also cause emotional disturbances. 

For example, children become sad or angry more often, have trouble sleeping, have nightmares, low self-esteem, or even want to hurt themselves to commit suicide. They also have difficulty interacting with other people or choosing to take dangerous actions. Some risks that continue to lurk children who are victims of violence as adults, including:

Not easy to trust other people.

Victims of violence in children experience bad experiences regarding the abuse of trust and a sense of security. As they mature years later, this can continue to have an impact on them. They have difficulty returning to trust other people who will love sincerely.

Having trouble maintaining personal relationships.

Experience as a victim of violence against children can make it difficult for them to trust others, get jealous easily, and feel suspicious. Some find it difficult to maintain personal relationships for long periods of time because of fear. As adults, this can interfere with their personal relationships. Though this condition risks making them feel lonely.

Have a higher risk of health problems.

Victims of violence run the risk of experiencing higher health problems, both psychologically and physically as they grow older. A study revealed that victims visited doctors more often, more had to undergo surgical procedures to suffer from chronic disease conditions, when compared to those who did not experience violence.

Being a perpetrator of violence in children or other people.

When children who are victims of violence become parents or caregivers, they risk doing the same thing to children. It is estimated that this risk is quite high, with around three out of 10 children victims of violence. This cycle can continue if you don't get the right treatment to deal with trauma.
Other risks that can arise from victims of child abuse when they are growing up such as depression, eating disorders, panic attacks, suicidal ideation, alcohol or drug abuse.

How to prevent physical violence in children.


Educate yourself and your children.

Become an educated parent. Parents must continue to learn to be good and smart parents in nurturing. That way, children will also be educated. You can take part in various parenting classes, both offline and online. Having a parenting community is a very good thing to prevent violence against children. You can get a lot of knowledge and experience from other parents so you can prevent violence against children.

Teach what children become their rights.

Children need to be educated about their rights early on. Children must be taught that they have the right to be treated well. Children also need to know that they have the right to get security. It will encourage them to think that every act of violence they get is something that violates their rights and something wrong.

Tell about what violence is.

Children assuredly often tend to be quiet when they do not know what they are getting is a violence. Parents need to tell wisely what violence is. Tell the child about kind of types of violence on children that might befall them. Use children's language that is easy for them to understand. Also, tell signs of violence that might occur to them. 

Make friends with other parents.

Become a friend of parents in your child's environment. The environment can be at school, at home, at children's courses, and others. Usually, parents will help each other and tell what happens to their children when they get bad things. It is a form of empathy from every parent who cares about children.

Also, read  Chronic Illness can be The Impact of Childhood Trauma.
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