Sexual Abuse in Children-1: How To Prevent Sexual Abuse In Children?

More and more cases of child sexual abuse are occurring in several countries. Child sexual harassment can occur in any child without knowing social, religious, racial, and other statuses. Every parent certainly does not want their children to be victims of sexual violence.

The majority of parents who still have children under the age of 18 must be pretty worried about this problem. Parental concern about child sexual harassment is natural. However, parents should not have excessive anxiety. It's helpful if parents do plenty of ways to prevent child sexual abuse for the safety of their children's lives.

In most cases of sexual abuse, perpetrators are people from the nearest environment such as neighbors or little playmates. Many incidents of toddlers are tainted by elementary school children because they are fun or curious.

It's an influence on children can destroy psychosocial and growth in the future. Preventive action, sexual education and providing information about the problem of sexual violence, since a child is 2 years old, can prevent sexual harassment.

Various subjects we can teach the children about protection during their growth period. But, one thing is forgotten: sex education and the authority of the body itself. Sex education for most people is still too taboo to talk about, often this topic surfaces when it's too late.

Sexuality Education for Children.

Until now, in some communities in several countries, sex education in schools was often still denied by many parties. The reason is that sex education is suspected of being counterproductive and leading to pornography. In fact, the lack of formal access to sex education makes children and adolescents tend to satisfy their curiosity through other means, such as the internet, pornographic films, and peers which are generally inappropriate and can be dangerous.

Actually, comprehensive sexual education will be effective in overcoming promiscuity. According to, comprehensive sex education and effective HIV / AIDS prevention programs show influence on behavior change and/or achieving positive health impacts, including delaying first sex, decreasing the incidence of unsafe sex, increasing condom use and contraception, and pregnancy rates and a much lower incidence of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

The role of parents is very much needed as the primary educator of children and involves them in discussions of sexuality and reproductive health. When parents talk about sexuality with their children, you can ensure that the information they get is the right information. Parents must be the child's first source of sex and sexuality.

- Sex Education is a safety solution about a child's curiosity.

Curiosity about sex is a natural step in the growth of children to learn about their bodies. Sex education helps children to better understanding their own bodies. However, children still need to get sex knowledge through appropriate sources, such as parents or school.

Sex education also provides an opportunity for parents to instill values in the family. For example, if you and your family believe that sexual relations must be done after marriage, this can be the topic of discussion of your conversation with the child.

Let the child express all his questions and opinions so that the discussion about sex becomes a discussion, not just one-way advice. Research shows that children who have received sex education at home from their parents tend not to engage in risky sexual behavior.

- Sexual education: Parent-child discussion.

While discussing sex with children, make sure that the discussion meets their age. Define the topic in a simple language so that your child understands, and do not directly give "public lectures" with multiple topics at one time.

Early on, children must be able to know and distinguish body parts, including genitalia. Use the correct terms from the start: breasts, nipples, butt, penis, vulva, vagina, testicles so children can identify problems correctly.

Another essential thing is to introduce children to the concept of puberty and how the body changes due to puberty. It's a good idea to do it early before the child reaches puberty.

When discussing to teenagers, convey not only facts and information about sexuality, but also your feelings, opinions, and attitudes about certain issues, such as oral sex or issues of sexuality in general in accordance with the context of family, religious, culture or your personal.

Objectively identify the risks of each condition, including from the emotional side, infectious infections, and unwanted pregnancies. Explain the importance of contraception, especially condoms, and also that oral sex is not a safe solution to vaginal penetration.

If your teen is watching porn, don't panic. Don't also scold him. Use this opportunity as an opening for a discussion about what he has seen and tell him that being curious about sex is normal. As a parent, you must use this opportunity to rectify the 'fantasies' and real-world risks that might occur from pornographic films, and that sex is a personal and private thing for adults.

Various factors such as peer pressure, curiosity, and loneliness, for example, direct some teens in early sexual activity. But, no need to rush. Remind your child that sex is an adult's behavior. Until then, there were still many other ways to express love, by talking, walking, holding hands, kissing, or hugging.

Also, explain that no one should feel obliged to have sex on the basis of intimidation or fear. All kinds of sex on the basis of pressure/intimidation are patterns of rape, no matter the offender is a stranger or who they know well.

How to prevent sexual abuse in children?

Learning about preventing sexual harassment is necessary, but not enough to ensure their security. Prevention and teaching are the responsibility of adults. Children, of course, are still very vulnerable to all types of violence because of their helplessness and dependence on adults, as well as their lack of knowledge about hazards and how to protect themselves.

Children develop self-defense from the encouragement of the closest people they trust to recognize their physical abilities and emotional wealth. They need help to acquire adaptive skills, rise from difficulties, and to prepare themselves for the challenges he will face in the future.

To teach children effectively, parents and teachers must first arm themselves with the right information about the complex effects of sexual abuse on children and other important facts.

- Teach children about personal body parts.

As mentioned above, you must teach children about personal body parts. Teach children that the main body parts are breasts, nipples, butt, penis, vulva, vagina, testicles. And teach the child how they must respect other own personal body parts, as they respect to their own.

- Teach children to recognize boundaries.

The main principle that you must teach early is that the body is a private, that each human being has the right to determine what they can and will do with their bodies, who can touch it, and how other people touch their bodies. The right of each child must be insured and treated equally, as an adult.

Teach children to respect their bodies by teaching them to respect other people's bodies. Teach children early to do nothing to others if the person does not want it.

Also, respect their desires, and make sure they know that not anyone, including you, has the right to touch them without their permission. Don't assume everything is okay to do. Do not carelessly ask them to give kisses or hugs to other people if they don't want to. Teach them to be able to refuse politely.

- Invite your child to always be open to each other.

Educate children to be open to you. Ask your child about their days when you are not with them. Make them feel comfortable discussing any topic.

Always give a positive and friendly response to the child when they are talking to you. It will make it easier for children when they have just experienced sexual violence, and you can immediately take action.

Always spend your time with the child where they can get your full attention. Make sure that they can tell in anytime about everything that happens in their daily lives, or if they have certain questions, or if they feel someone makes them feel uncomfortable.

Also, make sure that they will not get into trouble if they share these things. Many abusers use trick or bribery tricks so that their victims keep secrets about the violence they experience.

- Get to know your children's activities.

You need to know some important things related to children's activities without you. Know where children are on the move, their friends, their teachers, and the adults around them. Get to know a little deeper from the location and people related to children's activities to prevent opportunities for child sexual abuse.

- Teach them to be alert even with the closest person.

Teach children to always be aware of their personal body parts even with those closest to them. The closest people besides father-mother cannot see and touch the body parts. Build their alert attitude towards the closest male sex. Tell them to immediately report to you if someone is closest to seeing and touching the private body part.

- Teach children about steps toward the possibility of sexual violence.

Advise your child about actions that should be taken if someone wants to see or touch their body parts. It's pretty essential for children to know which is very useful if it turns out they are facing acts of sexual abuse. Teach children to say "No" to anyone that wants to see and touch personal body parts. Shouting and asking for help from others must be done to avoid acts of child sexual abuse immediately.

- Other tips:

  1. Teach children not to allow themselves to spend time in some places with other adults or older boys.
  2. Know who your child spends time and accompanies while playing with his friends. If it is not possible, monitor their conditions frequently.
  3. Do not give clothes that are too open because it can be a stimulus for acts of sexual abuse.
  4. Teach safe internet usage - provide a time limit for him to use the internet, always keep an eye on the sites he opens. Also, explain that not everyone he knows on the internet is as good as he thinks, so he should not be careless about giving information or telling them.
  5. Tell the child not easily talk or accept gifts from strangers.
  6. Ask the child to immediately notify you if someone sends a message or picture that makes the child uncomfortable
  7. If you use a caregiver, make sure you get it from a trusted institution, and always ask for a complete identity..
  8. Always emphasize to your child that "NO IS NO!", and remind them that the influence of alcohol or drugs will damage their ability to make sex decisions, and can lead to sexual violence.
  9. Embed shame from an early age and teach your child not to undress in the open area.
  10. If you go to the park with your child, make sure the child is always under your direction.

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